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When Did You Get Too Comfortable?


Alas here I am folks, in the early hours, being me, being wonderfully awake and alive,

I’ve had a few blue days, from Wednesday onward it was just blegh, but yesterday was an eye-opener,

whenever I’m in the mood to cry for no reason, it’s always the most unexpected people who bring me back up,

MATHS CHEERED ME UP and at the end of lesson Miss said with a smile “Do you feel more confident now?” and I just smiled my best smile, she had no idea what that meant XD

I went home smiling, but with that shadow following me around, I tried shrugging it off, went to mosque and tried my best to keep up with lessons,
then got home and just secluded myself from everyone, prayed (to who Idk), and slept
and here I am sipping Assam tea, listening to Justin Timberlake and J Lo, blogging,


I’m sick of the patriarchal sexism in my household, in society, when I was 13, THIRTEEN YEARS OLD, my grandma told me there’s no point in me carrying on school because I was going to be in a house cooking and cleaning with a BA Hons in Literature certificate as decoration in my living room. How damaging do you think that was to me? I was 13, barely understanding the world, adolescence creeping in on me, and I get told something so demeaning.

My grandma is an intelligent lady, don’t get me wrong, but she’s just from a different era I guess, it just sucks that someone with my firey personality was born into this family, because things are going to change, it hit me, if (when) I go to university I will be the first woman in my family to go on to higher education. That is a heavy title, no lie, it would be so cool to say that in interviews XD

I hate it when people say there’s no point in going to uni anymore, I’m just going to be drowing in student debt? I’m not going to get a job in this job market? NO.

Knowledge is power. Unversities are just beacons of knowledge.

Just because I have a vagina, not a dick, doesn’t mean I can’t do amazing things, doesn’t mean there’s less opportunity out there for me, I will get there. Watch me.
(Sorrynotsorry for the crude language but hey! C’est moi! No one’s forcing you to read.)

I feel really motivated right now, if you haven’t guessed, I kinda stopped working for a little bit but now my dream’s back in sight, I’m back. πŸ˜‰

Also my friends keep telling me about my bubble and how bad it is for me but this is for them:

I’m glad I have my bubble around me, it’s smaller than it was before, but it’s still enough to put a gleam on things that no one else sees, my bubble protects me and it helps me, but popping my bubble doesn’t do much except putting things back into perspective, and that’s not always a bad thing. My bubble is something like armour for me, something like my own haven, something that will never entirely disappear.
~From The Book I’ll Never Write~ So Tumblr I know~


Today I feel like working my ass off, my first exam is on monday, RE, and tuesday is French, I’m sure I’ll be A-okay – I’m going to go to a friends house today to ‘revise’ :’)

So my message to y’all today is don’t get too comfortable, there’s always room for improvement, no matter how slow, the climb to success is still that, a climb. Keep going.

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.





8 thoughts on “When Did You Get Too Comfortable?

  1. Pay close attention when people say degrees have less value everyday. Do you want to know what I do for a living? I write MA and PhD thesis and dissertations. People studying the highest levels in their fields who can’t be bothered to do their own work come to me, a 22 year old without a degree, who uses the internet and some savvy research skills to write a 2.1 degree for them over a weekend. What do you think that degree is worth? The culmination of five, six, seven years of studying can be written overnight by a uni dropout with no prior experience and the people buying my work off me STILL GRADUATE.

    On the flip-side, most of my friends from high school graduated last year or the year before. Where are they? MacDonald’s workers, waiters and waitresses, unemployed, moving back in with their parents, working their butts off in 40 hour weeks at minimum wage jobs to make the same money I make in my 20 hour week. These aren’t paltry degrees, these are qualifications like maths, biology or art history from univerisities in the top 10 in the UK.

    Oh, and these girls are all in debt. Here in the UK your debt is from a government loan and doesn’t affect your credit rating, which means you don’t need to pay it back until you are earning over Β£21k/year. Which is nice, because that means these girls won’t be paying any of theirs back for another decade or two. In the USA you don’t have to be earning enough to pay your debt back: you pay up or you default, whether you’re on 100k or minimum wage.

    But even here in the UK a lot of people I know have personal debt. Because it’s hard to keep on top of uni work and make a living at the same time. So if you wanted a social life, you had to use credit, get loans, get money in to keep you alive. They have awful credit ratings and are even having to take out loans again if they want a career because: internships cost money now. If you want to work for a prestigious company, you need to pay THEM for the privilege.

    Meanwhile I am debt-free, with more money in my bank account than 72% 18-35 year olds have in savings, working a 20h week from home and living life on my own terms.

    The knowledge is out there. Work without a degree is out there. The university industry has become a for-profit machine, where unless you get into Ivy Leage or Oxbridge, your degree will do nothing at all for you.

    For your own sake: find something else to do with your time and money. Start a small business. Work at MacDonalds and climb your way into a manegerial position. Write books and sell them. Go to Thailand to teach English and live an easy life for little money for a few years, build your savings. Get a certificate in something like personal training or life coaching and work for yourself. Write essays for all those people who have gone to university and can’t cope with the coursework. Do your research and find something amazing to do with your life. There are a million things you can do to avoid becoming another statistic. Because you are better than that, you are better than a $30-100k piece of paper and a lifetime working minimum wage.


    1. But university is my dream, I understand all of this and I’m a UK kiddie, so I get all of it, and thank you for the advice, university will not help me get a job, it will just help me learn to learn a little better, also I have a million backup plans, some of which are actually business plans πŸ˜‰ I’m not a numpty and I know it’s going to be hard to get a job, but I don’t settle for the mundane jobs most people do. I want adventure *___* and I want to love my job.

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      1. If you are hellbent on going to university:

        1: Make a list of degrees you qualify for and will love, and then find which one has the best employment prospects. Never go with the first thing you think of, always look at every option you have. You are a complex human being and there is definitely more than one field you would love to study, so make the most of it by studying the one that’s got the best options for you. You can always go back and study the rest in your spare time when you’re earning big money, but if you spend 10-20 years on a low wage then you simply can’t afford to go back for a second degree. This is “your one and only shot” only if you make a bad choice. Anyone can get a second bachelor’s if they have the money to pay for it.

        2: Work your butt off at uni: study, take a language course, IT course or something else on the side, get some work experience, try and start a small business (I started my work while I was at uni, before I dropped out to pursue my own life]. Too much time taking it easy equals a very stressful final year and nothing more than the degree by the end of it, you want to build yourself up, use your time to become the best person you can be

        3: Use any leftover loan money or maintenance money to save up for a business startup or an internship. Whatever you feel like doing after uni, you want a bit of money to support you on your way

        4: With all that said regarding work, don’t forget to socialize and reach out: join a social club that is directed towards one of your dream jobs, make friends with people who are headed your direction, volunteer with organisations in work positions related to what you want to do; basically get out there and make sure you know loads of great, motivated, fun, loving people in your future fields of work. Build a linkedin profile of them if you have to!

        5: Don’t be too idealistic. Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Don’t look at the biggest salaries people get in each field of employment: look at the average and lower end of average. Don’t look at the people who got out of uni, got work and loved it: look at the people who didn’t enjoy it. Assume the worst will happen and work super hard to stop it happening. This way you will be prepared when bad things happen and pleasantly surprised when something good happens. Otherwise you will be unprepared when bad things happen and unimpressed when good things do. Plan for the worst, hope for the best and you’ll actually be happier in the long term, because nothing will bite your butt when you turn your back on it.

        6: Look after your money. Start practising budgeting now. Try asking your mother or father to give you an allowance for food, clothes, transport, etc, and see how well you can manage on your own. If you have any part-time work, try budgeting that and seeing how much you can save. You want to be ready if your car breaks down or you ruin your wardrobe by mistake. You want to eat good, healthy, tasty food without breaking the bank. You want to go out and have fun with your friends without using a credit card. And when you’re at uni you’re in the deep end. Practise right now while you’re still in the paddling pool! I’m actually reconfiguring one of my money saving books into a concise book specially for students and young working people, so if you need any help create a throwaway email and I will send you a copy once it’s done.

        7: Think of uni as the backup plan. It doesn’t work out the way most people plan, so you want to make sure everything else in your life is solid. What if your ideal field of work is saturated or replaced by the time you’re out of uni? What if you get a chance to take a year out and work with a big company or organisation in your field? Always think of the longterm and look to all the doors that are open, not just the one you like the most. Right now the world is yours, but if you get too locked on uni, you might miss other great opportunities.

        Best of luck and don’t make silly mistakes. πŸ˜›


      2. Well, I’ve had quite a life, so I suppose I’ve seen a little more than most people, meaning I’ve seen how wrong and how right things can go. But largely I just don’t like seeing well-rounded people like you getting caught up in any sort of “one true path” mentality, whether it’s traditional or modern. So I just help where I can. You look after yourself, keep being an original and keep churning out awesome blog posts. πŸ™‚

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